YOU NEED THE VIBRATION TO MARRY

 

"You cannot have what you are willing to become." ~ Michael Beckwith

  My mother told me, "You waited such a long time to settle down because you’re so picky!" But, in reality, the truth is that I was traumatized by many of my friend's relationships for a long time. They could barely take care of their kids, and their marriages or relationships were so toxic that it was either dangerous for them or depressing for me. I constantly wanted to save them, encouraging my decision not to jump into a relationship or trust a man. And, when I did finally date again, they turned out to be proof that all of my environment, including me, wasn't in any position to love correctly anyway.  I never realized that you could change the people you're around or the type of person you date to make things better or more promising in the end. I was naive to the possibilities of life or the emotional intelligence of it all. The ones I dated were toxic to themselves, making them more harmful in my life. Not to mention the toxicities I had to overcome. It’s a double whammy when you put two of that together. We all have them, and we need to manage our insecurities and internal battles by choosing partners that bring out the best in us once we recognize this. Life is a beautiful thing, and we live and learn. When you start making better choices, and you start becoming self-aware of your flaws, this is where a relationship can flourish. That is when you can change the world around you. The people you hang around or the person you choose to sleep with make a massive difference in your external life. As we all know, you don’t have to be in a relationship to have a prosperous life, but if you’re going to be sleeping around with different partners, you may eventually feel like you want to have just one. It can be exhausting spreading your energy so thin. Statistically, it’s not common to get married after forty, but it is possible. I’m living proof.  

            CHOOSE WISELY. YOU ARE VALUABLE. DON’T MAKE YOURSELF CHEAP.  

I waited many years to say yes to marriage after all my mistakes. Getting wiser was a part of my journey first, and I had to be ignorant to see that.

          NOT ALL MEN ARE THE SAME, AND SOMETIMES YOU'RE TO BLAME.

  I’ve been asked to be married three times, and I said no to each one. I finally said yes because my ideas of who I should be around in my life have become more stable and precise. Things take time. The fact is that you need to make good choices and be strong to attract a good person back to you, and that can take decades. It’s normal; you’re human. Be patient and make better choices while you are at it!